Sure you have! We all have. At some point we have blurted, whispered, tweeted, emailed, or conveyed information in whatever method we chose to use that instantly lowered our IQ, at least in the eyes of our immediate audience.
Now, depending on who was present when we let the words roll down from our brain, bypassing our filter (if you even have one), and sliding off our tongue at neck-breaking speeds, our level of care could be different. If your audience was someone who you really didn’t know or you really don’t care for, then it’s probably not that big of a deal. However, if those present at the time of the verbal explosion were people you have an on going relationship with, more then likely, you probably wish you could take those words back.
If the second scenario is the case, then let me share one piece of advice from the bible that could help you not only have less of these embarrassing moments, but it could also make you look smarter. And it’s actually pretty simple.
Are you ready?
Learn the art of silence. Proverbs 17:28
Learn the art of silence! Maybe it’s not what you expected, but the Bible says in Proverbs that Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. Yeah, that might have stung like salt on an open wound for some of us who have a real hard time keeping quiet. But the reality is that it works. Side note:I’m by no means saying I’ve mastered this (just ask my wife), but there have been several occasions it has helped me pause when I wanted to say something. And in most cases it turned out to be the wiser decision, because I quickly changed my original reply once I realized what they were saying and what I was hearing were completely different.
Maybe the wisdom in keeping quiet is giving ourselves time to think before we speak. It’s not easy, but I encourage you to make an effort to use God’s ratio (2 ears for 1 mouth) for speaking versus listening today – listen twice as much as you speak!
Use God’s ratio (2 ears for 1 mouth) for speaking versus listening today listen twice as much as you speak! Proverbs 17:28
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