There’s more to complaining than meets the eye

“Every time you complain, you’re voicing something you think you’re entitled to.”
Brian Buffini

Complaining = Entitlement

Complaining seems like a seemingly neutral activity or reaction. But it’s not. It has more negative effects than you might realize.

Complaining is more than just a thought, it’s a belief. The reason you are complaining about something is because you believe that you are entitled to more and better.

  • Life is boring – you believe that your entitled to be entertained
  • You don’t get paid enough – you believe you deserve more money for your work
  • You’re not where you should be in life – you believe that you deserve a better lifestyle
  • Someone doesn’t seem to like you-you believe that everyone is required to like you
  • You’re mad because you got a ticket for speeding-you believe that consequences shouldn’t apply to you

But the reality is that no one is really entitled to anything except for what they came to this earth with.

Dangerous attitudes

Complaining and this belief of entitlement are dangerous and not neutral. What makes them so dangerous is that they can keep you from fighting and pushing forward when life gets hard. Entitlement will tell you that you should be ahead or you should be succeeding but your not because you’ve been dealt an unfair hand. And because of this, you should just give up.

Romans 5:3-4 (NIV) Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.

Paul tells us that it’s the very things that we run from that will produce the very thing we long for – character and hope.

Attitude of gratitude

1 Thessalonians 5:18 (KJV) In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

The solution to this problem is something that is easy but doesn’t come easily – gratitude. God wants us to be thankful for everything, aka. the good, the bad, and the ugly. When you are suffering, being looked over for a promotion, feeling the temptation to cheat when no one is looking but refuse to, or seeing everyone else get ahead but you, look to God and give Him thanks.

Remind yourself that you have been given enough already to be thankful for the rest of your life. Choose to live with an attitude of gratitude.

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