Don’t live for the approval of others
Why do we live so much of our lives for the approval of others?
Feeling appreciated and getting recognized for accomplishments is not a bad thing. But when it gets to the point where our emotions hinge up or down on their words it’s become toxic. You need to find a way to get out from under that kind of influence.
So how do you do this?
The answer is meekness.
What is meekness?
Based on some of the definitions that came up as I searched the web were not very positive. It was viewed as a weakness.
Meekness is not weakness, it’s an attitude, a posture you take, and a decision you make.
- It’s a posture you take about yourself that actually allows you to walk with confidence because you are standing on solid ground.
- It’s an attitude that operates like armor that protects your heart from craving the approval of others.
- It’s your heart admitting that you are not the center of the universe and you’re not going to get upset when people don’t treat you that way.
Blessed are the meek
Romans 12:3 (ESV) For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
- Meekness is the balance between not thinking too highly of yourself and not thinking too low of yourself.
Matthew 5:3 (ESV) Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
- Meekness is living when an attitude that even if someone insults you or makes you feel small God will one day restore you to your original glory.
You are a child of God and there is an inheritance witing that far surpasses anything that could be gained on this earth.
Luke 14:8-10 (ESV) 8 “When you are invited by someone to a wedding feast, do not sit down in a place of honor, lest someone more distinguished than you be invited by him, 9 and he who invited you both will come and say to you, ‘Give your place to this person,’ and then you will begin with shame to take the lowest place. 10 But when you are invited, go and sit in the lowest place, so that when your host comes he may say to you, ‘Friend, move up higher.’ Then you will be honored in the presence of all who sit at table with you.
- Meekness is a posture that allows you not to take yourself too seriously.Even if you are popular, influential, or highly respected, you don’t walk into someone else’s party with an air of entitlement.
You are who you are and you feel confident in that. You don’t need the spotlight or the best seat in the house to feel important.
There’s freedom in meekness
It will take courage.
Meekness is not for the weak.
You will have to find the courage to let go and not walk around with the weight of living for the approval of others anymore.
It’s holding you back.
Quit allowing the opinions of others to influence you into being someone you don’t even want to be. The job you have, the things you own, the debt you’re in, where you live doesn’t have to be influenced by the thoughts that flood your mind of what someone will think if you make that decision.
Your goal, if anything, is to be less and for Christ to be more. It has become your heart’s desire to exalt Christ above all, even yourself. So when someone actually thinks less of you or makes you feel small, it’s not that big of a deal because you already live by John’s motto – He must increase, but I must decrease (John 3:30).
Christ followers live for the approval of one – and God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure (Ephesians 1:5 NLT).
There’s no need to strive.
Let go of that burden once and for all. Be free. Stop caring what other people think.
Rejoice in the presence and approval of your Lord.
Philippians 4:4-8 King James Version (KJV)
4 Rejoice in the Lord always: and again I say, Rejoice.
5 Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.
6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.