Parenting means making decisions
As a parent, I have to make decisions for my children. Some decision they really like, especially when it involves doing something fun, going somewhere exciting, or getting something they want.
But not all decision are received so well. And not just by them.
Some decisions I make are countered with puzzled faces. For example, some friends and family give me the “you’re weird look” when I tell them that my kids are not allowed to spend the night at a friends house.
And obviously, my kids would love to spend as much time with their friends as possible. So they can’t seem to understand why other friends get and they don’t.
I made this decision out of a conviction not just whim.
But none the less, my decision is received with a “really?” look on most faces.
Not to be arrogant, but I don’t care. Don’t get me wrong, I do care about my friendships and my kid’s friendships.
What I mean when I say I don’t care, is that their response or approval is not my priority.
Parenting with a higher view
I have someone greater, in fact, we all do, that I will have to give an account to – God.
Romans 14:12 (ESV) So then each of us will give an account of himself to God.
One day I will give an account to God for the decisions I made. I will give an account for how I lead, provided for, and protected my family (1 Timothy 5:8, Ephesians 6:4, Titus 1:6).
So I take my role as a parent seriously, and so should you.
You should make all your parenting decisions with God’s approval in mind. Would He be okay with you allowing the pressure you feel to appease someone, control what you allow your kids to do, what you allow them to have, or where you allow them to go?
In other words, would He be okay with you allowing them to parent for you?
You need to make all your parenting decisions with the knowledge that you are accountable for every single one of them to God, not to your friends, kids friends, or anyone else.
You probably won’t win the popularity contest. Some will even talk behind your back. Your kids might even get momentarily upset with you.
But if your decision is made out of a conviction you truly believe God has given you, then stick with it.
Making some decisions as a parent are stinking hard! But it’s a gift from God to make them.