Should you make your kids go to church?

Ephesians 5:25 (NIV)
as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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Should I make my kids go to church?

I know that’s a question a lot of parents may have asked at some point — should I make my kids go to church?

Typically this is out of a concern to not make kids hate church when they’re grown up because they were forced to go when they were kids.

My take is that yes you should.

Church is more than meets the eye

The church is important when you realize what the church is about. And kids can’t learn what it’s about unless they go on a regular basis.

The church is more than a place we can go, it’s who we are. Church Is the family we’ve been adopted into. The men and women there have become our brothers, sisters, uncles, grandparents, fathers, and cousins in Christ.

Ephesians 1:5 (NLT) God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.

Matthew 12:47-50 (NIV)  Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.”  He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”

Church is meant to be a family

I know there’s some that have very dysfunctional families and they would rather their kids not even associate with them. But a family is not just those who are connected to us by blood. Family can be those who are seen as uncles to our kids even though they are not related by blood.

We want our kids to know who their family is. That’s why we go to family reunions, visit grandparents and celebrate special occasions together because we want them to know who their family is and feel connected to something more than just themselves.

No, they may not be perfect because sadly we are in a world that is broken because of sin but there is something beautiful that God wants us to experience among those who have surrendered and chosen to follow him.

Interdependence not Independence

Deep within us, there’s a need to be independent. Independence can be good but it can also come from a place of rebellion and pride. We don’t want to depend on anyone for anything and we especially don’t want to submit to anyone for our decisions and actions.

God wants us to be more than independent. Interdependence is what God intended. That’s why Adam needed God, and later Eve. It was never God’s plan for Adam to walk alone and independent of anyone in his life. Adam needed God and he needed Eve.

God wanted him to walk in a life of interdependence.

And it hasn’t changed. God wants us to walk interdependent of each other within the church. He wants the church to be a group of people who show an interdependence of Him primarily but than also of other Christ followers.

Love your Church

Teach your kids to love the church because Christ loved the church and gave His life for it (Ephesians 5:25). Show them that Church is meant to be more than a place you go to. It’s a family you belong to.

This is what will keep them in Church when they have a choice not to go. A love for Christ and an interdependence in your Spiritual family.

10 thoughts on “Should you make your kids go to church?

  1. Very good subject and post. Should we make our kids go to school? Like school, kids may be thankful later when they call upon Biblical principles and even when reminded of Scripture thru the Holy Spirit. God’s word will not come back void. God bless you brother!

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    1. Great insight Lisa. We make our kids go to school because we think it’s important for them, how much more Church where they can learn about our precious Savior.

      Thanks, God Bless

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  2. Thanks for posting Benjamin. I’m a families worker in a local church and so face this question fairly often, and as I dad I don’t doubt I’ll have to field a similar question from my own children one day. Your post was a helpful reminder of why the answer to the question is always ‘yes’.

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    1. Haha! Yes, it’s a question I’ve had to give an answer to my toddler as well as to my teenager. And we must remember that our actions speak louder than words.

      Thanks for reading and commenting. God Bless


  3. “Teach your kids to love the church because Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.” This is vital. If we don’t love the church or display our love for it, we cannot expect our children too. Children are most taught by what see.

    I concur with Lisa, very good subject and post. God bless you.

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    1. Absolutely Chrystal. I think as parents we have to remember that our kids need answers to their questions. Their question might come out of an actual curiosity as to why it’s important to go and not just out of a desire to rebel. I think these are great opportunities to parent in a Godly way and lead our kids “in the way they should go”.

      God Bless

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  4. Should I make my kids go to church? Relevant Post 👍, God bless you.

    Even if the Kids don’t appreciate now they will later. Our society, culture, education system don’t know what is right or wrong and they don’t care. In Church, Kids see and hear about God. “So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.”
    ‭‭(Romans‬ ‭10:17‬ ‭ESV‬‬). When life hits them they are reminded that there is A loving Father on whom they can rely, Who doesn’t forsake us in our messes and there is forgiveness through Jesus Christ. Each Individual has to be born again. Parents have to pray for their children. They have to show their children its the real deal by Living In Jesus Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit, I know it’s easy to say when u have no experience 😀. With God all things are possible.

    “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”
    ‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭6:6-7‬ ‭ESV‬‬

    “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
    ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭22:6‬ ‭ESV‬‬

    “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
    ‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭6:4‬ ‭ESV‬‬

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    1. I believe that if our home life matches our church on Sunday life, they will be okay with us making them go to church when they don’t want to. I think the problems happen when parents don’t show their kids that Christianity is a life surrendered Monday through Sunday 24/7 and not only one day a week.
      If they can see that it’s important to us they’ll understand why we are being so adamant in making sure they go. If they can’t tell that it makes a difference in our lives they’ll resent you making them go to something that doesn’t even matter to you.

      Thanks for reading and commentingGod Bless

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