Should I make my kids go to church?
I know that’s a question a lot of parents may have asked at some point — should I make my kids go to church?
Typically this is out of a concern to not make kids hate church when they’re grown up because they were forced to go when they were kids.
My take is that yes you should.
Church is more than meets the eye
The church is important when you realize what the church is about. And kids can’t learn what it’s about unless they go on a regular basis.
The church is more than a place we can go, it’s who we are. Church Is the family we’ve been adopted into. The men and women there have become our brothers, sisters, uncles, grandparents, fathers, and cousins in Christ.
Ephesians 1:5 (NLT) God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.
Matthew 12:47-50 (NIV) Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.” He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”
Church is meant to be a family
I know there’s some that have very dysfunctional families and they would rather their kids not even associate with them. But a family is not just those who are connected to us by blood. Family can be those who are seen as uncles to our kids even though they are not related by blood.
We want our kids to know who their family is. That’s why we go to family reunions, visit grandparents and celebrate special occasions together because we want them to know who their family is and feel connected to something more than just themselves.
No, they may not be perfect because sadly we are in a world that is broken because of sin but there is something beautiful that God wants us to experience among those who have surrendered and chosen to follow him.
Interdependence not Independence
Deep within us, there’s a need to be independent. Independence can be good but it can also come from a place of rebellion and pride. We don’t want to depend on anyone for anything and we especially don’t want to submit to anyone for our decisions and actions.
God wants us to be more than independent. Interdependence is what God intended. That’s why Adam needed God, and later Eve. It was never God’s plan for Adam to walk alone and independent of anyone in his life. Adam needed God and he needed Eve.
God wanted him to walk in a life of interdependence.
And it hasn’t changed. God wants us to walk interdependent of each other within the church. He wants the church to be a group of people who show an interdependence of Him primarily but than also of other Christ followers.
Love your Church
Teach your kids to love the church because Christ loved the church and gave His life for it (Ephesians 5:25). Show them that Church is meant to be more than a place you go to. It’s a family you belong to.
This is what will keep them in Church when they have a choice not to go. A love for Christ and an interdependence in your Spiritual family.